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I Connected with My Inner Child and Now She's Even More Fucked Up


My therapist is a big believer in the inner child theory in that everyone has a subconscious personality that encapsulates your childhood beliefs and insecurities. I was wowed by this realization. Maybe if I could talk to my inner child, she could help explain why I'm such a terrible, horrible person.


So my therapist gave me some techniques to start speaking to my inner child. I started asking her questions, like, "How do you feel about Marcy saying you're a fat slob?" and "Were you okay when Jack stole your favorite doll and burned it?" and "Did you feel hurt when Dad said you were the reason for the divorce?"


Apparently she didn't know these things. She answered back, "What?" and "Why would they do that? What's wrong with me?"

I tried my best to make her feel better. "Oh, it's okay. It's in the past." And she said, "I'm never going to get over this."


And so now my inner child won't talk to me. I think she's had a nervous breakdown and needs her own therapy sessions. As a result, I'm worse off than before.


So my advice is don't talk to your inner child. It's more trouble than it's worth.